Are you a Romanticizer, Maximizer, or a Hesitater?
I just finished reading an increfible book called “How To Not Die Alone” by behavioral scientist and dating coach Logan Ury. The book describes what usually trips people up when looking for love and provides pieces of advice on how to make better decisions.
In the first chapter of the book, Ury described The Three Dating Tendencies — The Romanticizer, Maximizer, and Hesitater. These are the common blind spots when it comes to dating.
The Romanticizer has unrealistic expectations of relationships. You believe you are single because you haven’t met the right person yet.
The Romanticizer are the type of people who believes that there is someone out there for everyone. They believe that their Prince/Princess Charming will eventually find them and they’ll live happily ever after. These are people who probably consumed so much Disney Movies in their childhood.
The Maximizer has unrealistic expectations of their partner. You’re the type of person who’d say ‘I like my girlfriend, but I could be 5% happier with somebody else’. Your motto: Why settle?
